Frenemy: Definition

*cue dark music that plays when a bad guy comes on the movie screen* So we all have one. That one friend that really maybe shouldn't have been your friend in the first place. I know whoever is reading this already has someone in mind, you know who I mean. That one person who you let get away with murder in your friendship while you just.....took it. Okay, so maybe not EVERYONE has that one friend, maybe there are people out there that are strong enough to say HEY knock it the heck off or get the heck out. That however, is not me. Now I know some of you are going, what makes you so great huh?I guess your perfect right? Let me give you a disclaimer before I go on. I by no means am or have EVER claimed to be perfect. Ive done some shitty things and said some shitty things, and sometimes can be a crappy friend. That is not what I'm talking about, what I'm talking about is when someone claiming to be your friend walks all over you for years, and you let it happen. Here is an example. You have just met and started to hang out with this person on a semi regular basis. You have two other friends that you hang with, and you let this other person in on your little threesome (don't be dirty minded sickos), the three of you basically get together every night after work, and this other person starts to join you. You laugh you have fun, you jump in the car and travel places. One day you are the last one to get out of work, and you head over to your friends house where you always meet, only to discover that the 3 of your friends had taken off someplace without you. Why you ask? Because the new friend in the group told the other two you didn't want to hang out tonight because you were tired. A lie. This "friend" lied to your other friends to get you out of the picture, to intentionally leave you out and make you feel like garbage. What do you do about it? Nothing. Don't say a word, don't tell anyone, just put it behind you and move on, while CONTINUING to hang out with this person, like nothing happened. That ladies and gentlemen, is the definition of a frenemy. A friend and an enemy rolled up in one neat little package. I mean sure you had a blast together over the years, tons of good times, probably even more good times then bad, and the good times were some of the best of your life. But. Well lets face the facts, that one first time that something bad happened? That would be enough for some people to ditch this person and never look back, and that? That happened in some way shape or form more than a few times. This person thought it was okay to treat you this way. Yes I know, YOU established the pattern, you overlooked it once and they thought, hey when opportunity knocks you open the door right? My thoughts on how to finish this blog are few, you obviously can tell by reading that this person I am speaking of is indeed real, and that we have had a recent falling out. A falling out for which I got all the blame, and they took absolutely none. I am the big horrible mean bitch because I did one thing "wrong". Forget everything they did to me, no that doesn't matter. Its all me. This hurts. It hurts a lot. Telling everyone that will listen how horrible I am. Getting phone calls from friends making sure we are okay because you are running your pretty little mouth to anyone that will listen. Sitting home watching you have fun with people i'm close too and knowing I will never be invited again, because I had the courage to stand up to you for the first time ever. I had the courage to say ENOUGH. ENOUGH WITH THE BULLSHIT. The sad thing? I gained in this. You lost. Guess that means I win huh?

Cell Phone talkers will be prosecuted.

Dear obnoxious lady walking around the grocery store talking on her cell phone......Oh wait a second, I forgot. Thats me. Well crap, I'M the obnoxious lady talking on her cell phone in the grocery store. Ok ok ok hold up. Why do I HAVE to be obnoxious just because I'm talking on my cell phone while I'm grocery shopping? Why do you have to give me a dirty look like I'm doing something wrong just because I'm chatting to a friend while I pick out my 87 1/2% lean ground beef? You see my dear, cell phones, or "mobile" phones, go WITH people places. Its why they are MOBILE. Why do you give a shit anyways? You do not own the grocery store, there is no sign outside that says "Cell phone talkers will be prosecuted". I'm not shoplifting, I'm having a conversation with a friend. If you do not own a cell phone, fine, thats your choice, and its also your choice not to like what i'm doing. But people, life is a 2 way street. Just as you have the right to not like what i'm doing, such as I have the right to do it without YOU looking at me like i'm committing bodily harm to someone. Alright I'll admit, MAYBE I don't take those corners as good one handed as I do 2 handed, and if I knock into a display of crackers and send em flying, then I deserve the dirty looks, and the snickers and giggles too. Until that happens, lets continue to try and wrap our heads around this don't judge others concept. People ARE going to do things you don't like, that ladies and gentlemen is life. *breaks into song* Thats liiiiiiiiiiife, thats what people sayyyyyyyyyyyyy. If we, as a society, spent less time worrying about what other people are doing, and concentrated on what we ourselves were up too, it would make life just plum easier for everyone. Just imagine it, we could all worry about ourselves and what we are doing, and what other people are doing could just cease to matter. I know I know, what other people do CAN affect what we do, its hard to ignore people, *insert other excuses here* and blah blah blah. Your right, that is true, and when that happens, then you gotta do what you gotta do, and I get that. All i'm saying is take what other people do with a grain of salt, after all does it REALLY matter if that lady in the store (okay ME) is talking on her cell phone? Think about it.

The age of technology and judgement

Would you like to know what the first thing I hear when I get downstairs with my 3 year old is every morning? I know, your thinking "good morning mom", or "hi mommy I love you" or something endearing like that right? Nope. "Mom I wanna play the blues clues game on your puter". *slaps face* I could've had a v8. 3 years old and he navigates the nick jr website like a champ, and plays his, yes HIS iPod touch with utter ease (something his grandfather cant even figure out how to turn on by the way). Now here is where your thinking, here she goes, shes going to ramble on about how technology is ruining our children and blah blah right? Wrong again. You know what else my 3 year old can do? Say his ABC's, count to 20, say his full name and what street he lives on, throw a football better than I can, build a tower that would stop a train with a set of legos, and even read and spell certain small words like cat and dog. Every game he plays on my computer teaches him something new, and he surprises me every day with something else new he has learned. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not advocating violent video games or letting your child zone out in front of a computer screen or TV screen all day, but lets face it, kids learn crap from technology. Its the facts dude. On the website I frequent called Cafe Mom, I see whom I dub "sancti mommies" (I will use this phrase alot) who claim things like "I only let my child have one hour of computer time a day" or tv time or "they can only have their cell phones or iPods for one hour after dinner". GREAT. Good for you. Want a cookie? I let my child play on my computer all the time, watch as much TV as he wants, and his iPod goes everywhere with him, and guess what? he STILL plays outside, reads books, and plays with his Thomas the train wooden railway set and his ten thousand Mr potato head pieces, just like any other kid does. Ladies and gentlemen, here is what it boils down too. Its the age of technology baby, deal with it! If you don't wanna let your kid play the computer all the time great! Good for you! Props and kudos and *sings* all that jazz. Just like everything else in life, we live and learn as we grow. Okay ill give you that twenty years ago our parents played with sticks and rocks and made tree houses in the backyard, and were extremely happy doing so, but can you deny that the more recent generations are well... quite simply, smarter? Maybe we've allowed them to also become LAZIER, but their brains are little sponges. They just SOAK in what we give them!! When you hear a mother say that her child is playing a game on the computer, don't scoff... that very child may very well be learning the foundations of what they need to know to cure cancer, or AIDS, or to discover life on other planets!